Sunday, January 10, 2010

Saying goodbye..................

Shedding tears of sorrow.

Yesterday I took a walk in below freezing temperatures. The sky was cloudless and brilliant blue in the midday sunshine. I went to a little park nearby. At one time several homes stood there. Families with children must have enjoyed the nearby creek. Vestiges of the occupants remain, a plant hanger rusting on a large oak, a little shed way back in the wooded area. The houses were taken by the city due to constant flooding from the creek, and the park was created. I only see a dog walker now and then, it's not a popular place as there's a much larger city park within half a mile complete with duck pond, swings, slide, tennis courts and community center. I like to stop here at this somewhat lonely spot when I want to think, be alone, take some pictures, and perhaps shed a tear.


I lost the dearest friend on Friday.........the husband of my best friend from my hometown in England. She and I met in Washington, D.C. when we emigrated, amazed to find we grew up just miles apart. For almost 47 years we have kept in touch even though she moved to the west coast 45 years ago. We were last together in July when we visited their vacation home at Lake Almanor in Northern California, and last Spring we all met up in our hometown in Devon, England for an amazing time.


This wonderful couple were like this mighty oak. Two special loving people, always together, traveling the world to places most of us never see. Brave until the very end, a kind and loving man to his family, friends and strangers. His battle with cancer for so many years made us admire him so much


I will not be posting for a little while. Life feels sad, empty, brittle. I need some time to remember a wonderful man whom I know is now at peace...........................but will be missed so much.

33 comments:

  1. Oh dear, dear, Mary, I am so sorry to learn of this. And of course I remember this couple well from previous posts a while back. It truly must feel like family, and of course his wife being form your own home area, of all places and then meeting in DC and staying friends all this time. I only wish I had the lovely words to say to you you always say to me to encourage me along. Thank you for thos,e for this blog too. I will miss your writing but understand this is a time to heal and if you need to do it alone, by all means. We will be here whenever you return.

    Jsut let us know one thing? Will you be reading the comments n the future during this time too?

    Take care dear Mary. You are a good online friend.

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  2. Mary, this is a beautiful tribute to your friend. Take care of yourself and your friend. Know that friends far and near are wrapping their love around you during this difficult time. Thinking of you ~ Sarah

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  3. So sorry to hear about your loss. It's hard to know what to say or do at times like these, I know. You were blessed to have known him.

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  4. Dear Mary,
    Take time to heal ............
    Fondly,
    Helen

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  5. Mary, what a beautiful poignant post which reveals so much about you, dear friend.
    Try not to be too sad, we must all travel the same road one day and he can now rest. Remember the good times and be glad to have known such a wonderful man.
    Paula now needs your support and strength. My love to you all
    JJ

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  6. I am so sorry to hear that you have lost such a treasured friend, you have my sympathy, I too lost a very dear friend far too early to this cruel disease.

    Take time out to reflect and come back soon.

    Anne.

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  7. Mary, you will be in my heart of prayers. I am so sorry for your lost. My husband lost his best friend from the beach Dec 27th to suicide. It has devasted all of us. I know how you must feel. God is good and we will all get through this together. We have re-discovered some funny memories of Dwayne here lately it has began to break the sadness and bring back a few smiles to his face. If you need anything please let me know, Blessings, and Hugs, Janna

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  8. Dear Mary I so empathize with you today on the loss of your friend. I know you would love to be with your friend. I will pray for his family, you and all those who loved him. Blessings
    QMM

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  9. Mary,

    I am so sorry to hear about your loss. May the coming days bring you some peace with the memories that your friend has left behind. Your tribute to him was beautiful.

    Love
    Elizabeth

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  10. Oh, Mary - I'm so sorry for your loss.

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  11. I understand you need to heal your heart.. I will miss your daily posts.. They gladden my heart..

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  12. So sorry for your loss.
    May you find comfort in your memories.
    How wonderful to have known such a special man.
    Blessings,
    Cindy

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  13. I started a blog/journal last year when I lost two dear ones within four weeks. It helped me so much. Perhaps it would help you to do so.
    Mine is at rivercityartist.blogspot.com with love.

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  14. Mary, I am so sorry for your loss. Please let me know if there is anything you need. How is your friend holding up?

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  15. Oh Mary, I'm so sorry. I hope you can make the trip and spend time with your friend. Sally Ann is right. You have the perfect outlet here and you know you have lots of friends here who will listen and support you. Take care of yourself.
    Anna

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  16. Sorry to hear about your friend. It is always hard to lose someone that is dear to our hearts.

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  17. Miss Mary, What a gorgeous way to show your feelings. Take some Mary time. Enjoy warm memories. Please feel all the heartfelt wishes and hugs from your many friends and admirers. the tea lady who thinks the world of you.

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  18. I am so sorry to hear cancer has taken another lovely person. He is at peace and it is comforting to know that but it is so hard for us left here to really be ok. I hope you take time to heal yourself and to help your sweet friend.
    Hugs and prayers, Lisa

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  19. Mary - what a beautiful tribute to your dear friend's dear husband. How her heart must be breaking.

    I completely understand your taking a blog break; I am just getting around to reading a few blogs today, 5 days after losing my mother. Things still don't quite seem real.

    In sympathy,
    Cass

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  20. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the family of your friend. Beautiful post, Mary.

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  21. Take time to:
    Remember
    Grieve for the family
    Reflect
    Be comforted by others
    Savor the happy times......
    and then know that you are richer for his friendship.
    Rebecca

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  22. Mary, this post shows what I have known for the past couple of years...you have a heart full of compassion and caring. My thoughts and condolences go out to you now as you remember your friends.

    Much love to you & Bob

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  23. I'm very sorry you lost such a good friend. I will say a prayer for you and his wife tonight.
    Love Nancy

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  24. I'm so sorry for your loss Mary, it's hard to come to terms with the thought of never again seeing a friend of such long standing with whom you share so many memories and had such happy times with.

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  25. Dear Mary,
    I am so sorry to hear your sad news. This is a beautiful tribute to your friend. We all understand your need for peace and solitude at the moment, please remember that all your friends, wherever we are in the world, are thinking of you and wishing you well.
    Maggie

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  26. Dear Mary,
    I am so sorry to read this today. Take time to mourn the loss of a special friend. Then treasure each memory in your heart. Please send my condolences to his wife and say we are taking time to hold her in our hearts in our sorrow for her loss. As a Quaker we say, we are holding you in the light. May love surround her in this time.

    Blessings to you as you also mourn the doss of a dear friend.

    Marilyn

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  27. Dear Mary, I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved friend. The world looks so different when these things happen, but I know you will treasure the memories you have of him. You and your friend's family are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Warm hugs,
    Lori

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  28. Oh Mary, I am so sorry!

    I enjoyed your "armchair travel guide" to Lake Almanor this past summer so much. I knew you were having a special time. I'm so glad you were able to go.

    I'll miss your posts, but understand the need to reflect and remember. I'll be keeping you and your friend in my thoughts a prayers.

    Fondly, Chris

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  29. I send comforting thoughts to you in your grieving time. How lovely, though, that you have such wonderful memories to help you through this.

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  30. My condolences, Mary. I am so sorry for your loss.

    You've written a lovely tribute to your friend.

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  31. Thanks to each and every one who left these comforting words - you are the best friends ever.
    Mary X

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  32. Dear Mary, If I was there I would give you a big hug as I know that words are hard to say for someones loss.
    Take Care!
    Ulrike

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  33. Mary I have been in Atlanta for five days and just returned home Sunday night. I arrived home to find my cousin Bob visiting from MI. We have een busy theses past two days.

    I am heartbroken for your loss of a dear friend. I remember you posting about visiting good friends in CA this summer. How very sad to lose a friend you care for so much. I hope his family are doing well and accepting his loss. I hate cancer. I know we should not hate but that disease is such a terrible thing. It took both of my parents.

    Blessings to you Mary, for healing from your loss. Prayers will be given for you and your friend's family. I am so sorry.

    Love and sympathy, Jeanne

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